To what extent do I need to obey my parents?
1- The duty of a child towards their parents is of two kinds: The First: To be kind towards them by providing for them, if they are in need. To provide for their day-to-day needs. To respond to their requests that are related to their daily lives at a level that is normal and usual for a human being, in the sense that if he refuses to fulfill them, it would be regarded as “not being good to them” — and that would differ depending on whether they are healthy and robust or ill and weak. The Second: To behave towards them kindly, by not offending them in word or action, even if they are unjust to him. In some religious texts, it says, “And if they hit you, do not shun them; instead say, ‘May Allah forgive you.’” This is as far as it relates to the parent’s situation. As for those issues concerning the affairs of the child himself by which he could offend one of the parents, these are of two kinds: The First: If the parent’s distress results from his concern for the child, it is forbidden for the child to do something that would distress his parent, irrespective of whether or not the parent has prevented him from it. The Second: If the parent’s distress results from his own evil characteristics (for example, dislike for the good of this world or the hereafter for his child), this kind of distress has no bearing on the child, thus, it is not obligatory on the child to submit to this kind of desires.