Children may disagree with their parents in many matters, including travel, marriage, choosing a university major, a professional trade, and other similar decisions. What are the limits of obedience to the father and the mother?
The first, which relates to the affairs of the parents, includes two kinds of duties:
1- Being good to their parents, by fulfilling their daily and financial needs, and meeting the normal and usual demands of their lives such that it would be regarded as a denial of their favors [upon the child] if neglected.
2- To behave with them in an acceptable manner by not offending them through words or actions, even if the child feels that they have been wronged by them.
The second aspect includes two types of duties that relate to the affairs of the child and the decisions and actions that cause the parents distress, which results from:
1- The parents’ compassion and concern for their child. As such, it is forbidden for the child to do something that would cause them distress, irrespective of whether or not they have forbidden them from it.
2- The parents’ own reprehensible characteristics (e.g., they do not want what is good for their child, possibly for personal reasons) then it is not obligatory upon the child to submit to their desires of this kind.