Is obedience to one’s parents obligatory or recommended? Sometimes children discuss vital and essential matters about their future with their parents, including what to study, type of work, travel, marriage, etc., and the discussion may become so intense that the parents become distressed by it. Is it permissible for the children to do so? If it is not permissible, what is the limit the children must not exceed?
It is permissible for children to discuss matters with their parents in which they disagree with their opinions. However, they must be calm and polite, and not look at them disrespectfully or even raise their voice over theirs, let alone use harsh words. Obeying one’s parents is recommended, but if disobedience causes the parents distress, due to their compassion for their children, then it is not permissible [to disobey].